Are you stuck in the sad and the scary in life, or feeling free?

Forest track with two people walking a dog, one is riding a disabled buggy.

Life doesn't always turn out as you expect it to and sometimes we find ourselves in an emotional bind, slightly stuck or even rock solid! The more we focus here, the stronger the bind appears to be. Let’s call this stuck tricky spot BLUE.

I had a client once who came to me burning with anger over a work colleague, up until this appointment they had been good friends. What happened you ask?
My client found out his work buddy was paid more for the same role and h was furious. He was so angry he was close to tears. He justified his anger through blaming the company.
Nether colleague had changed in any way, my client happen to see the company accounts on his boss's desk and stayed to glance over them. As a result he began to sabotage his role, turning up to meetings late, handing in work late and leaving a trail of upset in his wake. He justified his poor actions because he thought he had been wronged. The day before he saw the magic numbers he was punctual, peaceful and proud of his work.

WHY DO WE DO THIS? We respond to a misperception of something, bring in all our past fears, create a story and BELIEVE IT! When it was all self created from snooping or from a misunderstanding. I am sure you have your own stories of seeing life as  distorted through the fog of fear. We make up a whole bunch of reasons to collude with our emotions, pop them into a story to tell and live there! We live in a crazy hurtful stuck made up version of what we see instead of what truly is more peaceful and an unconditional loving way to be.

Often in life we move through spaces where we feel peaceful, like the forest scene here. I believe when we are in the expanse of nature we see differently, we see beyond the surface concepts that keep us trapped in defense and attack thoughts. Let me share a very simple continuum that I use as a metaphor for how we filter our world: 

Unconditional
LOVE _______________________________________________________ FEAR 
                                                            Conditional

Nature, holidays, weekends. home, people we like and love, pets, our favourites (mine are writing, family, theatre, reading, ballet, rugby, teaching, spirituality and the outdoors) these are our non romantic unconditional spaces where we feel whole, passionate and connected.

Worry, guilt, judgement, blame, projection, anger, feeling stubborn, refusal, resistance,separation, isolation, defense and attack are all FEAR (there's a WHOLE list of fears under this- type it into AI and ask ). We are seeing the surface of our life through the ego or fear. This fear space is a call for LOVE.

Imagine walking through the forest in my photograph with someone you love, you hold their hand and your heart feels full and light. You hear birds and a stream nearby, you breathe lightly and love your life.

What if you walked through the forest feeling angry, picking up sticks and thrashing the poor undergrowth, having a family row and grumbling because you are fed up cold and hungry. You would probably believe it all happened to you instead of from within you. I would imagine you would 'see' that walk quite differently.

In any given moment we are whole and innocent, this is our default button, our starter pack we are born with. When our vision is heart based and innocent, it feels connected and unchangeable , so is our world around us. We are connected to Spirit -to God and each other in this love and oneness.

However, if we choose to see the world through our false perceptions and concepts, these are ever changeable (fear based) because we make them up according to events and circumstances that forever change. We use past concepts, childhood responses, hidden resentments to inform us and try to make sense from this unclear mind space. But boy does it convince us that it is real!

In my days and weeks,  I move up and down the line, often forgetting that I am whole and connected, becoming lost in the fear based parts of life I create. When I pause to notice I am usually aware of heavier sad stuck or scary thoughts, and I step away to find the next best feeling from where I am. I don't beat myself up, I allow my resistance to pass until I can see beyond the unsettled surface - I know I can't see clearly in the fear fog or sail in choppy waters and I wait a while until thoughts settle. From this quieter space I hear my own inner guidance and KNOW exactly what to do. Have a great day, you matter!

I talk in detail about this in my online course The Path of Stillness where we learn how to allow fears and resistance to fall away.



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Anni Silverdale Poole. Transformative Coach. - YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@AnniPoole